DOES IT MAKE SENSE?...

WE ARE MORE FRIGHTENED THAN HURT, AND WE SUFFER MORE IN IMAGINATION THAN REALITY.....

When a relationship of love is developed, a bond of trust is formed. There is an unspoken agreement that the two of you are committed to each other and that you will not see other people. When one of the members of this sacred bond choose to be intimate with another person, they are not only cheating their lover but they are cheating themselves as well. They are breaking their own bond of trust. In most situations, when a person cheats, it is not because of affection for a new lover. Rather, he may be searching for what is missing in his present relationship.

The feeling of being in love is so intense that it feels like it will last forever. We can't believe that the other person doesn't feel the same way. We can't believe that this sacred relationship has been betrayed. You may have been sure that you were in the same wavelength and that you understood each other. Meanwhile, you have been walking on parallel and eventually divergent tracks the entire time. The feelings of betrayal and hurt may take many years to heal.
 

When your heart is broken it is the saddest thing in the 

world. All your energy leaves you and everything in 

your life seems to lose all meaning.You gave your 

heart and soul to this love, and now it is no more.

 How can your heart ever be whole again? There is a 

very deep thought attributed the Mystical Rabbi

 of Kotzk, "there is nothing as whole as a 

broken heart". Although a broken heart is painful, 

it brings a person to turn to God. He realizes that 

he is ultimately alone in the world except for God 

who is always there to comfort him.

 
In a loving relationship, there are often hurt feelings. We have certain expectations of our partner, and when they do not live up to them we are likely to feel a sense of betrayal. The truth is that if we put our hurt aside for a moment we may realize that our lover was not even aware of the expectations that we had for them. These expectations are probably a carryover of fantasies that we have in our heart of how a perfect lover behaves. It is OK to have these expectations. However, if we expect our partner to fulfill them for us we must at let them know what we would like.

 

Giving yourself alone time gives you the time to think,fix and plan things....

-prof. ethel-